Hi everyone, here is part 2 of my 17 tips to help you plan your wedding. If you missed the first post, go and grab a hot beverage and check it out here…
Ask for RSVP’s to an email account
To some this could be a controversial one. In this day and age we felt that an RSVP by email was sufficient for us. We wanted to make it easy for our guests to respond. People can send emails on their phone at a touch of a button now. We set up a joint email account especially for RSVP’s, and luckily didn’t have to chase many people to reply. I have a friend who is planning her wedding now who sent out unstamped RSVP cards with her invites. She is having a terrible time getting replies in from people. We also had quite a few comedy replies from our guests. Something we wouldn’t have done if they had to send a pre-printed card!
Give your husband-to-be some input
It can be so easy to get carried away planning your ‘perfect wedding’ and doing everything the way you want to do it. Don’t forget that it’s your husband-to-be’s day too! Make sure you make decisions together. for instance; Mark is a huge Brighton FC supporter and in a nod to that we dotted some Subbuteo players in Brighton kit around our tables which he was really chuffed with.
Assign sensible/ reliable people/ Ushers to help on the day
Mark has a large group of mates and has done since school so he naturally wanted them all to be his ushers. He ended up with one best man and six ushers altogether which was good fun! Luckily they are all a great bunch of guys, but such is life, there are ones who have better attributes than others. Make sure you recognise these and utilise them! All of our ushers were absolutely amazing and without a doubt made our day go exactly the way we had planned.
Honeymoon Fund as a gift
If you’re planning on asking your guests for a contribution towards your honeymoon as a gift then a nice touch would be when writing your Thank You letters to include something amazing that you did/ saw on your trip that they helped contribute to. Add a photo too if you fancy – your guests will love to know what their gift went towards!
Have a meal with your wedding party the night before
Mark and I live in Surrey. I am from Essex and so we decided we wanted to get married in London. Not only do we love the city, we also spend a lot of time there and had our first date on The Southbank. Almost all of our guests opted to stay in a hotel over night. Our wedding party also stayed with us the night before (Mark and I had adjoining hotels!) so we all went out for a meal to Dishoom the night before and it was one of the best things we did. There was so much buzz surrounding us and our wedding party and it was so lovely to spend the night with each other before saying good night ready for the next morning.
Include maps and detailed directions in your wedding invites
Your guests will thank you for it! Luckily we didn’t have anyone get lost. I like to think it was because of the maps we made. I have been to a wedding where guests turned up late because they couldn’t find their way there!
Make a detailed call sheet
We didn’t have a rehearsal before the wedding. As we were getting hitched in London, we had most of the wedding party come up the day before to help us with a few bits. This meant they got to see the reception venue then. We had briefed the ushers and bridesmaids about what we’d like them to do to help make the day run smoothly, and I created a call sheet which included a timetable plus contact numbers for all of the suppliers should something go wrong! I’m not sure it was used at all but it definitely did help to have a back up just in case.
Don’t sweat the small stuff and trust your instincts!
In conclusion, I know how it feels to plan a wedding. Sometimes you feel it can take over your life. And sometimes it becomes the only thing you can think about. As someone who has been married and who can offer this advice after looking back – don’t sweat the small stuff! It’s not worth it. Your guests won’t know if anything goes wrong behind the scenes. At the end of the day, yes your wedding day is most probably going to be one of the best of your lives but only if you let it. If you’re too pent up with getting the right shade of lipstick to match your flowers, then girl, you’re in trouble! You won’t be able to relax and enjoy the day!
If you’re planning your wedding at the moment are you enjoying it? Or if you’re already married, are there any other tips you can add?
All photos taken by the amazing and utterly talented team behind Emma Case Photography, Emma and Pete!