Everyone has down days. But everyone also has something they should be grateful for.
So, last week was a bad week for me. Not only did it bring my very unwelcome period, it also brought two of my friends telling me they are pregnant. (For those of you who don’t know, I have been trying for a baby for 2 years now. IVF will hopefully be starting for us by the end of this year. Read more in my previous post here). I normally have 1 – 2 days a month where I allow myself to feel down and depressed about everything baby making before I start to feel back to my positive self again. However last week was particularly hard. The weather in the UK was dark, cold and miserable, I felt like my job was going nowhere and I just pretty much felt exhausted. Whenever I have down days, apart from eating my body weight in chocolate, I always try to do some yoga and think of the positives in my life. There was a particular yoga video on YouTube that I was halfway through when the instructor, Sarah Beth said something that really resonated with me:
“You have a choice for where you put your focus. You can focus on the moment; on the things that make you feel bad – this causes you to be quick to react to whatever thought pops into your head. Or you can shift your focus towards gratitude. Think about what you already have. Think about what you’re grateful for. Think about all of your accomplishments. All the people and pets in your life who love you and support you. Shift your attitude towards gratitude and you’ll see all the blessings in your life which may have just been hiding in plain sight.”
It was these blessings and that yoga video that inspired me to write this post. A list of what I am so grateful for. A list that I am going to keep with me and keep adding to. Whenever I feel down now I am always going to look at this list to help me. I always think that no matter what happens in my life, whatever it is that has made me feel down, there is always someone else in the world who is having a rougher time than me. I got it pretty good.
Things I am Grateful For
- My ever amazing, always supportive husband. We are in this journey together but he always puts me first.
- My close family, friends and people who love and care about me. I’m sorry to say that I have had friends back away from me since I told them I was struggling to conceive. It’s been tough. However it’s also showed me that the ones who have stuck around, the ones who always text to ask how I am are the ones who are the best. Without these people I doubt I would be handling everything as well as I am.
- My house. I may not own it. I may not be able to afford to own it, but I love it. Mark and I have made it our own. I love coming back to it at the end of the day. I am also grateful for the area I live in. It’s the best
- My health. My body may be failing me at the moment with what I would like it to do, but I am generally in good health, and for that I am thankful
- You guys. My blog readers and social media followers. When I started this blog at the beginning of the year I only had one aim. To write about what I love. It fills me with so much joy and excitement when I get good feedback about my content, especially my photos. I put so much time into everything I do on here (hence not posting blog posts as much as I’d like to as I am such a perfectionist!) and I love connecting with different people.
- Freedom. Without getting too political, I am so grateful for this. To have freedom of speech and to have a passport to travel wherever I want to whenever I want to makes me feel very lucky indeed.
You know what happened after I wrote this list? Not only has the sun reappeared in the UK and the weather become warmer, but I only went and got myself a very unexpected promotion! Good things happen when you least expect them to and What do you do when you have down days? Do you like to wallow in them or do you try and find a way to make yourself feel better?