Even before I became pregnant I was sure I didn’t want to find out the gender of our baby. Ever since announcing the news it is one of the first questions that people ask.
At first, Mark wanted to find out. His reasoning was that finding out the gender would help him bond with his unborn child and get used to the idea of having a son or a daughter. As our 20 week scan approached (where most people opt to find out or not) he slowly started to change his mind.
For regular readers of the blog, you will know that we underwent IVF to fall pregnant. It was this in mind that we both figured that we hadn’t gone through the whole surprise of finding out we were pregnant. Everything was regimented and dated. With this in mind we felt it would be nice to have a surprise and wait a few more months to meet our much wanted son or daughter.
It is such a personal decision to find out the gender of your unborn child. Whatever you choose to do is the right decision. I am a naturally impatient person and I have to admit it did take some self control to not ask the sonographer to tell us at the scan! And even now at 31 weeks I am so desperate to know! It’s something that I think about on a daily basis. Here is what I’ve found to be positives since we have decided to not find out the gender:
It is Unusual to Not Find Out Nowadays
I have four other friends who are pregnant with me at the moment and I am the only one who hasn’t found out. It feels good to be different.
Guesses and Old Wives Tales
I like people guessing and looking into the Old Wives Tales. Interestingly, the majority of people we know have made a guess that we are going to have a girl!
No Gender Coloured Gifts
My personal taste and opinion is that I don’t want to dress my child in ‘gender typical clothing’. (ie. princess pink for girls and blue for boys). By not finding out we have been able to limit this from happening and have been finding so many gorgeous gender neutral clothes in the process!
It’s Nice to Have a Surprise
Not only for us, but I am also looking forward to surprising other people when we announce to them what the baby is after the birth.
No Name Limits
By not finding out the sex, we are able to explore lots of different name options. It also means we will have lots in the bank if we are blessed with more children too!
What do you think? Did you find out your baby’s gender?